Here’s yet another post from 2015 that I still find relevant today.
OK. I get it. Second Life lost its luster, real life is getting the better of you for one reason or another, or you want to try out something new, like being someone’s finsub, or an anonymous, totally dehumanized rubber dolly. Or simply you’re tired of your current avatar and want to start fresh.
I’m OK with that, Second Life is an experiment in being whatever you want to be, but at times it loses its luster; and D/s is a river, one that flows and ebbs in both directions.
That’s cool. More power to you. I should know, I have been Dominant and submissive over the years, and I have no regrets about going one way or another.
What I am absolutely not OK with is up and leaving Second Life without being straight about it. Especially if you have a submissive in your charge.
Submissives, especially those who have been collared to a Dominant for a long time, rely on their guidance and presence. Some will wait forever for their Dominant to return.
As Dominants, we are responsible for the well being of our charges. That responsibility includes letting your submissive go. You should make it clear why you’re releasing your charge, in a fault free context, give aftercare, and care for your sub’s transition to another Dominant, including – but not necessarily so – finding a suitable replacement, and making the appropriate introductions.
Communication is key, as well as supporting the submissive through the weaning off and the acclimation to the new Dominant.
That is the only, correct, responsible way to release your sub.
So don’t leave your submissive hanging if you’re leaving Second Life or alting out. Own up, make sure they’re settled, because you owe them as much attention as they’ve given you.
Of course all of the above does not apply in case the Dominant dies. Although it must be said that a thoughtful Dominant with a presence in Second Life would set up a safety network for his or her charge to be notified in the event of the Dominant’s demise.
There, I’ve said my peace.